This is really hard for me to post, but today is important to me and I want to invite you all to celebrate w me and also bring some awareness on some things that I've been seeing pretty prominently in the cosplay community. I'm not doing this as a "woe is me", if this post helps one person then it'll be more than worth it for me. And if not at least I tried and I use this platform for something. I'm not going to say that I'm perfect because I'm not. I don't want this post to be all about me. I don't want it to be all about my mental health. This post isn't about me, it's about all of us.
Today is 8 years from the day I started to live again, 8 years from the day I started to want to be happy again, and 8 years from the day I stopped running from all my problems and suffering.
Today is 8 years from the day. THAT day. That day I was TIRED of living that way. TIRED of suffering every day. It's exhausting being sick, being MENTALLY sick. And I was sick and tired of BEING sick and tired.
Today is the day. The day I can look back on the last 24 years of my life and see. I see all the accomplishments I achieved because of that day 8 years ago.
I'm not going to go on about how my disorder ruined my life and my body. I'm not focusing on a symptom of my problems. If there's anything thats important about these 8 years it's that I haven't been perfect. My recovery hasn't been perfect, and that's okay. I have slipped up in the 8 years, A LOT. I am not perfect and I never will be, but all that matters is I try.
If you're suffering please don't give up. I know you've heard it all before, but I'm telling you it WILL get better. It WILL NOT be perfect, but it will be BETTER. Whether it's an eating disorder, depression, grief, addiction, or anything YOU are LOVED. YOU are WORTHY of a happy and fufilling life. YOU DONT HAVE TO BE SICK AND TIRED.
The first photo is unedited and unfiltered. The second photo took me 20 minutes on an iPhone app to completely change the shape of my body, remove my thigh dimples, even out my skin tone, airbrush my armpits, and give myself a tan. TWENTY MINUTES ON AN IPHONE. In my jimjams. With a cat on my lap. This is a reminder that it is insanely easy to manipulate an image before posting to social media.
While I’m a fan of using editing tools to brighten the color of the sky, boost colors to make an image pop, or add fun effects or filters; I will never, ever use these tools to change the shape of my body (except, of course to point out how easy it is to do). I love my body too much to do that to her 🤷♀️
How to avoid seeing highly edited images like this second photo? Well, they’re hard to detect, so unfortunately there’s no easy way to know. My best advice is to think about how the accounts you follow make you feel. If you check out someone’s profile and their content makes you feel a little more normal, follow them and others like them. And unfollow accounts that leave you feeling like sh*t. Generally, people who care about the body positivity movement will not lie about their bodies. So, search hashtags relevant to that kind of content, and find some more #BoPo leaders to follow 😁
Examples of relevant hashtags 👇🏻
1044184 hours ago
Earlier this week I was chatting with one of our lovely clients after reading her check-in. The previous couple of weeks had been more of a struggle for her and to put it simply she was not feeling as good as she knew she could feel. Obviously, this was upsetting to her, but instead of letting those feelings of doubt, guilt and failure consume her, she did exactly what I was going to suggest👉🏻practice restoration.
Instead of worrying about getting nutrition back to 100%, or making her go crush her workouts, we needed to scale back a bit and focus on the smaller (sometimes seemingly insignificant) things. You know, getting more sleep, resting when necessary, calling Mom on the phone, writing in the present moment.
These restorative practices sometimes get lost in our day to day life. The things that fill our happiness cups, the things that give us love.
It all comes back to being mindful. None of us are superhuman. Most of us struggle on a daily basis, but if you’re not restoring and being mindful of the things that keep you full, you’re doing yourself a huge disservice.
Every day this week, take 5 minutes to list 3 (and ONLY 3) restorative practices that you will focus on. Write them down + commit to them. I say only 3 because any more that that usually just increases stress. 3 is enough and will showcase the priority in your day.
Today I will 1) Honor my rest. 2) Visit my parents to wish my Dad good luck at his Tough Mudder tomorrow. 3) Spend 45 minutes on my yoga mat.
Feel free to share yours below!☀️ Happy Friday! #evolveyourperspective
806119 hours ago
Ok guys!!! I have a huge non-scale victory to share with you! So THIS happened at the gym last night and I am still freaking out!! It is weird to think...I almost didn’t even try this move because I thought I couldn’t do it! Well..I DID!!! .
When I first began my weight loss journey I was over 500 pounds. It was very hard to do anything!!! At all!! When I began working out everything was so weak and it hurt..a lot. I became stronger and things began to get easier. Then my body was covered with loose skin that personally caused me a lot of problems. Lifting my legs since they were (are) so heavy and having enough core strength was a big thing I struggled with. .
Then after this most recent surgery on my legs, I finally began to feel the muscles in my legs working and getting stronger. It was starting to feel like all of my hard work was finally paying off. Then...THIS happened. It may not look like much but this moment was and is, HIGE for me. This is the first time EVER I have been able to lift both legs up at the same time and lift them over anything. I felt my abs working, I felt my leg muscles shaking and I was holding back tears the whole time (although I had to keep it together because when I started feeling emotional I could not lift my legs haha) .
Remember, we are all at different stages of our fitness journey. Our bodies, the strength we have, what we struggle with is different for each and every person. Don’t worry about what everyone else can do, and definitely don’t focus on what you cannot do yet. Keep going, keep trying and never give up! What may seem like something small to someone else, may be something big for you! Celebrate those wins! You are stronger than you think and it all starts with believing in yourself and never giving up!
730813 hours ago
Belvita breakfast biscoats. Big fan. Golden syrup protein oats, sliced banana, chocolate BEANS and a choc chip hazelnut biscuit which went all melty and what not
Big gym sesh this morning because I couldn’t be assed yesterday and left half way oops. Have a fun day chums
If you know me well, you know that my brothers are my world. A couple years ago I had a realization that I wasn’t able to keep up with them like I used to be able to, and I was only 23. Twenty freaking three and I was winded from playing catch with my 5 year old brother.
You guys, I played softball in college. I was a catcher, and I used to sit in a squat just fine for HOURS... and in 2 short years I gained 60 pounds and could hardly play catch with a 5 year old.
I then proceeded to throw myself a pity party for another year, but then I got my ass in gear... I can’t imagine where I would be if I would have just started right away.
So what are you going to do? Sit on your ass and throw a pity party, or get your shit together?
📌I’ve got big legs and I cannot lie📌⠀
Body positivity is a great thing and all but for many of us it’s not just a switch you can toggle from ‘off’ to ‘on’ 💜 ⠀
I read an article in this month’s @womenshealthuk about ‘Body Neutrality’. This seemed like something I could get on board with, the idea of accepting yourself despite what you see as flaws or imperfections. Because for some of us the idea of loving your body just seems like another thing we feel pressured to acheive 🧡⠀
I know for me that loving my body is a long way off. Yes even when I think of all the amazing things it’s done like grow and birth children. Sometimes it’s not all about what you pick apart in the mirror. Sometimes its overcoming years of addictions and shame cycles. Addictions to things such as food, exercise, scales and diets 💛⠀
I always said if I weighed a certain number I might have thin legs and in turn I would finally be completely happy. The reality is these legs are genes pal! I’ve learnt not to look at those who are slimmer yet striving for more, thinking “they dont know how lucky they are.” No, I dont know how lucky I am. I shall depart with the wise words of Shakira “lucky I have strong legs like my mother, to run for cover when I need it” ❤️⠀
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91an hour ago
If there’s one thing I can pass on to someone younger, it would be this,
~ Be Your Authentic Self ~
All of my young life, I was told not to say certain things, not to dress certain ways, they made fun of my makeup, my hair choices and everything in between. Never good enough. I was told to “keep quiet” and “hey you, yeah you, shut the F up your laugh is AWFUL!!” And always the best one “OMG YOU’RE SOOO LOUD!!!”
I’ve been told “you’re crazy” and “you’re weird”
Ridiculed my whole life, and all their talk made me morph into something I wasn’t, I wasn’t my true self, I became what they wanted. Until half of these people that where in my life at that point, guess where they are now?? IRRELEVANT!! All the people that will talk whispers about you, will disappear from your life at some point, and it won’t even matter what they said and what their opinion of you where.
Until you realize how amazing you are, how beautiful you are in the eyes of a stranger, how literally you are the only version of YOU in the WORLD, that is when I believe everyone becomes their true authentic selves.
So if you can, if someone tells you your outfit is “weird” or “dumb” or things you do and say are considered “odd” just know, it doesn’t even matter, because your happiness is stronger then their negativity 💕 kill em’ with kindness, because it’s a sad day when your life has passed you by and your still not doing and being what you love 💕 .
61an hour ago
AUNTY JOEY VIBES. Today is my nieces’ prom and I’m all up in my feelings it’s NOT OK 😭 *Swipe to see cute candids, me acting a FOOL & the photo from my prom (2009) we recreated 🌸👸🏼
383an hour ago
Quick reminder to never ever give a flying fuck.
I'm not used to these "body positivity" posts, but I felt the need to show off my great tanned (?) belly.
Ain't got no boobs but I've got two belly buttons and a fake abs line.
Thanks surgeons for my funny body
What a change this community has made. 💕Not too long ago I can remember crying because I felt to isolated as a new mom, I had no friends, and my husband was coaching two varsity sports and I was isolated.
A girl who lived in the same small town with me ask me to join one of her groups of women who were working out and eating healthy together and just supported each other. .
I remember thinking I would love to have a group of woman and I seriously needed to get healthy and loss some weight, but is this girl serious friends and support on the internet? What a scam, joke waste of money.
She didn’t give up on me and I am so glad she didn’t because this group of women has been life changing. .
Now I am happy, loving, and enjoying life. For the first time I don’t hate myself or the way my body looks. I am comfortable in my skin and it is all because of something I thought was a joke, scam and waste of money.
Heute ist so ein Tag, wo ich angreifbar bin. Liegt vielleicht am Wetter ⛆
Ich weiß das die Bodypositivity-Bewegung auch ihre Schattenseiten hat. Wer mir schon lange folgt, kennt meinen gesundheitlichen Weg und weiß, dass ich offen damit umgehe (zu sehen im Highlight "mein Weg".
Es ist nicht immer einfach und ich kümmere mich sehr um mich. Gesundheit bedeutet in erster Linie aber nicht nur, sich gesund zu ernähren. Mir war mein seelisches Wohl vorrangig und die Wiederherstellung meiner Gesundheit, nach Absetzten der Pille.
Bodypositivity bedeutet für mich, sich zu lieben und um sich selbst zu kümmern. Gesundheitlich und seelisch. Aber alles brauch ihre Zeit und ein Bild von mir sagt nichts über mich aus (für alle, die mich nicht kennen) 💛
If you want something you never had you have to do something you never did! A lot of us (myself included) can be resistant to trying something new... for the longest time I thought the gym and cutting carbs was the ONLY answer. I was skeptical as to what I could achieve at home with no fancy equipment, I was scared of carbs, and I didn’t think I’d be able to commit long term. I’m so glad I gave it a try! I’ve never been as consistent or motivated as I am right now, and as I see results I get even more focused! Are you ready to try something new, something you can stick to, something that will finally give you lasting results? Let’s do this together. Check out my bio section and fill out a quick form so you can be considered for my upcoming accountability group! Or shoot me a message 🤗
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In the Size: Happy Facebook Group last week I discussed “the two voices in your head - Mean Mindy and Empowering Emily” ... and how to start drowning out the negative self-talk and also what to do when that negative talk pops in to say “you can’t, it’s going to be too hard, just quit, you’re ugly, your fat, you’re worthless, etc.”. Because it always will pop in. It’s always going to be there. But that doesn’t mean you have to listen to it... 😝🙉
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Didn’t want to gym today. Did anyway... Sometimes when you don’t want to go is when you have the best workout ever. Today was not that day for me.. BUT now that I’m done, I AM glad that I went. Because I know tomorrow I won’t regret skipping out. And sometimes that’s all it takes.
1931 hours ago
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