“I’ve been performing Kathak, an Indian classical dance form, since I was 7 years old. I love dancing but I struggled a lot with self-esteem issues growing up because of Alopecia, which caused hair loss on my scalp. Because looks are so important in dance, it used to make me very self-conscious.
It even came to a point where I thought that I couldn’t continue dancing because of Alopecia. But my teacher made me realise it doesn’t matter. He said, ‘It’s not your hair that dances. It’s you.’ and even though it sounds so simplistic, it really motivated me to continue with my passion for Kathak. My friends were also extremely supportive when I told them. And I am glad I reached out to these people otherwise they would have never known what I was feeling, and I would have never received their help and support! There’s only so much other people can do if you don’t want to help yourself, and you don’t reach out.
My thoughts were so clouded by how I looked, and what people would think of me. But I learned that people go by your looks once or twice and after a while they forget and see you for who you really are!
Now, I’m just glad I didn’t let my thoughts and feelings beat me into giving up dancing. I’m even putting up my own dance production this August with a message about the powerful and hopeful journey through dealing with issues such as self image, mental health and chronic illness. I'm trying to share the lessons that I've picked up along my journey. Would you like to come?”
48982 days ago
“For two and a half years, I have been struggling with acne & acne scars.
Accutane would be terrible for me, so I’ve chosen not to use it. Loving myself with acne has been one of the hardest things to go through. Though I surround myself with loving, accepting people, my brain hasn’t been able to do the same with my thoughts. However, I am growing, and changing the way I see myself. The people who see me for who I am, not for what’s on my face, are with me now. Anyone else disgusted or degrading me of my self-worth because of acne, which is a completely normal & beautiful thing, will never be in my life. Love yourself, beautiful bbz.”
(Gracie - Somerset, USA)
Found another thing to add to my gratitude/happiness list today: palm trees that look like fireworks 💚💙🌴🎆 So many of the things on my love list are things that help me care for my inner child. Here's to those of us trying to take ourselves a little less seriously 👐👐👐👏👏👏
Buongiorno! Scegliere con quale atteggiamento fronteggiare gli eventi della vita offre risultati sbalorditivi: perché diveniamo secondo quel che pensiamo di noi; attraiamo persone ed eventi a seconda di come ci sentiamo e possiamo creare solo ció che riusciamo ad immaginare.
Confession- I have *never*, outside of being pregnant and desperate at the height of summer last year, worn a tank top or a sleeveless shirt in public, without a jacket or a kimono or a cardigan.
Today, I got ready to go into the city for the day, and I thought eff it. I’m going to be as comfortable as possible. Favorite high waisted jeans from @americaneagle, new zodiac racer back from @target, and coffee to get me through the morning.
I didn’t bring a jacket or anything to cover my arms. Hell, tbh, I didn’t even wear a bra 💁♀️ #pruvit ftw
I’m working through my emotional and energetic bullshit, doing things I love, and have finally found something that works for my body 🙌🏼
I’m not into being sales-y, but I have some 10 day samples if you wanna get in on it!
🤷🏾♂️ I SHOULD NOT BE AN INSTRUCTOR ...
👔I mean, I dress different and a little funny. I take my clothing seriously and appreciate treating my garments with respect🙌. I own a few pieces because I travel a lot so I’m minimal💼. But I always choose QUALITY CLOTHING OVER QUANTITY.
I don’t think like everyone else. If you watch my videos I often talk about things like LOVE, #INTEGRITY, #EMPATHY, MOTHERS, and HIGH QUALITY WOMEN. Some of what I talk about makes me unpopular, but I have to tell you the TRUTH.
First impression of me might be that I’m cocky?... But it’s NOT #EGO, it’s all #SELF-ESTEM. I want you to have this too! I care about you and love you so much! You have no idea how badly I want results for you.
The message of this post is be willing to risk being “The 1 out of 9000”. Because no one can do you, better then you. You got this!
897448 hours ago
Women. Stop judging other women.
Society stop making women feel like they have to look a certain way.
It is extremely sad that we judge ourselves because we don’t look like “that girl” on Instagram.
I’m done. I’m done comparing myself to others. That’s not okay. That’s not healthy.
I am who I am. I am a strong, independent, loving and caring Women! I may have rolls that hang over my jeans when I sit down, I may have stretch marks on my hips, thighs and butt and I may have scares on my belly from growing a human BUT I am accepting all of that. I am who I am!
I have struggled with my self image ever since I had a child and IM OVER IT! I am beautiful and I DONT NEED ANYONE’S REASSURANCE!
Let’s start empowering women not tearing them down! Let’s start giving compliments instead of pointing out someone’s flaws! “Self love” is the MOST important thing in life. Love yourself first then everything else will fall into place! Wake up everyday with a positive attitude(which I am trying to no matter what) & look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself “I am beautiful, I am strong, I am confident, I am important & I will have a great day”
Just remember to be nice. Everyone has their own story. I encourage Women and Men to share their stories. Those who have shared have inspired me! 💕 I love you beautiful people 💕 flaws and all
How many of you feel like you eat really healthy during the day only to overeat at night? .
This is video #2 of the night time snacking series and my message to you today is do not skip meals!
Calories = energy which we need to consume enough of to get us through the day. .
So I’ll rephrase my question, “are you eating enough during the day?” ⏬
Check in with my coach today and this Is a shot I mistakenly took of myself. Just wanted to give some PERSPECTIVE here.
I work hard and I am ok with seeing my skin and abs like this. #fosterselflove starts with the acceptance of your being with the ideal you envision or not - most importantly the individual who love themselves enough to take care of that one body. Everyone’s needs are different so don’t COMPARE ever. If you find yourself doing that stop yourself and find 1 thing you love about yourself or others love about you.
With love and gratitude, Luisa #selfimage#lowselfesteem#transformation#momlife#fitover40
Lovely Facebook reminded me of this photo.
This photo is two-faced. You know... on the front it looks like one thing but on the back it’s a completely different thing. What you probably see are three friends posing back in 2012 when posing was thing & not candids. 📷 that’s totally true. We were. Friends, best friends, teammates, posing. But TODAY, years later, I still vividly remember taking this photo. I remember posting this photo on facebook (back before insta was a thing) & you know what I was thinking ??? That girl on the left is was thinking: “suck your gut in, stand tall, shoulders back, hand on hip, chin level to the floor, try to look pretty because your the ugliest of the three” 😭 Thinking about it now makes me so upset. I’m sitting here trying not to cry. How could a girl ever say that to herself ? Ever think that ? I would skip meals, lie & say I wasn’t hungry... looking at it now, when it popped up in my memories, I thought “wow I was thin. Why did I hate myself ?” I remember lying about my weight BACK THEN! I always said 5lbs less than I was. But why? TODAY it’s my mission to empower other women to change their game & change their mindset. Because I’ve been there. & yes, honest to the heavens, something i have “fat days” & i catch myself telling the inner me to “suck your gut in” [can you relate?] I’m still working on myself, I’m not perfect & I don’t try to be 🤫 I’m H U M A N. with issues. with problems. with thoughts. on a mission. & that’s all I can ever hope to do is to change another woman’s thinking when she looks at herself in the mirror.
“LOVE YOURSELF!!! ❤
Loving your body is one of the hardest things, and I'm sure many if not everyone has struggled with this. There's so much pressure to look a certain way to feel validated, to feel attractive, to be wanted by someone or to feel like you are enough.
My body has always been my biggest insecurity. I had to look at my “imperfections” day after day and own up to them. I had to hate parts of myself until I could realise that these “flaws” still make me who I am. I had to be kind to myself. It's the body I have and yes transformations can happen, I can love myself and still want to change parts of myself, but now this is who I am. I am beautiful. You are beautiful.
Love who you are as you are through all the changes you work toward. Appreciate your body at every point of your journey through life. Live with gusto even in the moment when you feel unwanted. Reclaim yourself! You are not just some offering for someone else.
And do not body shame yourself!!!
So often the worst things said about ourselves come from our own mouths. You only get one body, enjoy it in every way that you can.
No matter your race, gender, sexual orientation, body type, height or weight... remember: you are enough. You are worth it. You are beautiful. You are a star burning so bright that you're blind to see how amazing you really are.
This post is not to show people that I love my body because it's a road I am still traveling, but I am hoping this post will help those fighting this same fight. Help someone see themselves in a more positive light.
And if you're still struggling to love your body, remember that Ed Sheeran will always love the shape of you.
Be kind to yourself today! ❤”
(Riyaaz - Johannesburg, South Africa)
✧ Distorted thoughts ✧
Many believe that it‘s depression or anxiety that cause people to think negatively. However, the truth is that most people who struggle with anxious or depressed feelings first had negative, pessimistic, distorted thoughts that produced those feelings.
The thoughts and interpretations that you make regarding a circumstance have very strong influences on your feelings. Believe it or not, these negative thinking patterns are so common that several of them have been known to be linked to people who struggle with feelings of anxiety and depression. The most common distorted thinking patterns include: Black & White thinking, Exaggerating, Filtering, Discounting, Catastrophizing, Judging, Mind Readinng, Forecasting, Feeling’s are Facta, Labeling, & Self-Blaming.
These distorted thoughts are COMMON & oftentimes NATURAL. However, they aren’t true & if left unresolved they can trigger strong negative feelings that ultimately lead to chronic states of depression and anxiety.
With all that said, I’m curious: What are some of your experiences with negative thoughts?? & Has anyone been lucky enough to identify, address & work through them?? 🧠💭♥️